How can I talk to my loved one about rehab?
Addiction is scary, especially when it affects someone you love. But letting
a family member or close friend continue living with addiction is even
scarier than talking to them about it. Even if you tried before, talking
to a loved one may be the best way to convince them that treatment is
the best option for recovery. Don’t be fooled into thinking rehab
won’t be effective because it wasn’t their idea; this is a
myth. Whether or not they came to the decision themselves or need your
help getting there, professional treatment may be the answer.
Here are 6 steps to help you prepare:
- Have a plan
- Hold an intervention
- Educate yourself
- Don’t judge them
- Say what you mean
- Offer an immediate treatment option
Have a plan. Going into a conversation about your loved one’s addiction without
a strategy could make it ineffective. It’s impossible to predict
exactly how the conversation will go, but that doesn’t mean you
can’t be ready to talk about specific topics, such as how their
addiction – and eventual recovery – affects and will affect
your life and the lives of those around you. The best way prepare is to
ask yourself, “If I could just make them understand one thing, what would it be?” Write that down and make a list of related topics you want to touch on
during your conversation. Even if you don’t get to discuss everything,
you can use this list as a starting point.
Hold an intervention. It might sound cliché, but an intervention is often the best way
to approach a loved one suffering from addiction about their disease.
Never have an intervention without planning ahead, though. A spontaneous
intervention couldn’t only be ineffective but end up making your
family member or friend less receptive to rehab in the future.
Educate yourself. Understanding addiction is the first step toward recovery - for you and
your loved one. Before you confront them and bring up rehab, though, make
sure you seek guidance about addiction and recovery. One of your best
resources may be others’ personal experiences. Try visiting a local
addiction support group to learn more people who’ve been through
the same thing. In addition to providing guidance for you to help your
loved one, you can find comfort knowing you aren’t alone.
Don’t judge them. It goes without saying, but the last thing you want to do is make your
loved one feel judged. It’s okay to talk about the consequences
of addiction, but the purpose of an intervention isn’t just to point
out their mistakes. Your goal is to help. Avoid any language or verbiage
that is accusatory, such as “You shouldn’t have started drinking
like that” or “Things would be fine if you just hadn’t
abused your prescription.” Instead, focus on the ramifications of
the addiction and its negative influence on the life of your family.
Say what you mean – and not more. In other words, don’t make empty threats. If you described the consequences of
not choosing rehab, follow through. If, for example, you explain that you’re
able to pay for rehab but no other expenses if they
don’t choose rehab, actually refrain from paying those other bills. In the middle
of a heated or emotional conversation, it’s easy to the make “threats”
you don’t intend to keep or are unable to keep. Doing so can be
Offer an immediate treatment option.
If your loved one decides he or she is willing to try rehab, be ready to
take them to the treatment facility immediately. Finding the right facility
should be part of your initial plan. To see if Luminance Recovery is the
right choice for your loved one’s recovery, learn more about our
insurance options and contact our office today.